Be the Empress He Wants

But there is a catch. Nobody talks about it, but most women have no idea whether they are doing a good job and if their man enjoys it, especially if they have one of those “silent" guys. It is important to note that if your man tells you he liked it, it means that you’ve earned double points: it was good for him and  he is not afraid to tell you. So let’s assume you’ve got the fundamental techniques covered and maybe he's even dubbed you his “blowjob queen”, which you can consider a very good level to reach. But what if you're not entirely satisfied with that and know you can get even better at BJs? I’m here to tell you there’s more.
 

Let’s talk about a queen vs. empress. A queen gets to rule her own kingdom. But what does an empress rule? An empire, many kingdoms at once. Similarly, the difference is huge in the world of BJs. Being a blowjob empress is a level which most women have never tried to reach (or maybe didn't even know existed). But why not? It is about rising above "good” to such heights that there are no competitors left. The key difference is simple. A blowjob empress will not only make her man experience physical satisfaction but will also possess him emotionally. In other words, you need to get into his head as well as into his pants.

 

So then, are you ready to take it up a notch? Here are a few simple steps on how to go from merely a blowjob queen to being a blowjob empress. If you've got a few of these under your belt, now’s the time to finish them off.

 

1. Be Enthusiastic If it feels like a chore to you, he might still enjoy himself, but seeing you fully into it? That’s a complete game changer. Your enthusiasm and spontaneity will do more for him than any fancy new blowjob technique. If he realizes that your absolute fiercest craving right now is to blow him, he will get excited beyond your imagination. Want proof? Go ahead and surprise him with a wild "blowjob attack" sometime and watch him lose his mind.
    

2. Talk Dirty Talking dirty may not come very naturally to you at first, but most men just go crazy over it. You don’t need to sound like you’re in a porn flick, but try a few phrases and watch how he reacts. A few dirty texts or words whispered in his ear may turn out to be the hottest things that you ever try (especially whispered to him in public). Receiving an empress blowjob is an incredibly powerful aphrodisiac for any guy, and one of the most important parts is building the anticipation.
    

3. Role Play That’s right, this is your chance to let loose and step into a fun fantasy role. You could play the tenant who can't pay her rent, but has other things to offer. Maybe you’re the attractive next-door neighbor willing to exchange a few favors for help with home repairs, or perhaps you’re the woman whose car just broke down and is willing to do almost anything for some help. The fantasies are endless! Even better, let him choose a fantasy he’s always wanted to explore (I guarantee he has at least one), then become the woman who makes his dreams come true.
    

4. Make Eye Contact If you want to increase the level of intimacy immediately, try eye contact. Looking into each other’s eyes from time to time while giving oral to him is one extremely effective technique. By looking at him, you can convey many different feelings – affection, romance, intense passion, or even playfulness to let him know who is controlling his prize possession. Anytime you show more desire, it pays off.
    

5. Handle Him You have more weapons in your arsenal than only your mouth. By using your hands, you can save your jaw and he will love the extra effort. This is multitasking at its finest.
    

6. Swallow Then comes the matter of swallowing. Is it really important for most guys? Yes, but not everyone’s dying to do it (let’s not pretend otherwise). Some guys don’t really care if you do, but for most men it is an important element of a BJ. To swallow confirms that you’re “all in” and love every part of him, reinforcing that emotional connection. Don’t worry if you feel squeamish at the thought of gulping down his spooge. Trust me, you’re not the first one to feel this way. But keep practicing, with the goal of eventually swallowing everything effortlessly (tip: doing it quickly and all at once helps). Just imagine this as the ultimate grand finale of the show. In fact, simply telling him that you plan to swallow can create an additional powerful emotional connection and produce a more intense orgasm for him.
    

7. Beyond Best (Optional) This advanced technique is not one for the faint-hearted. We are talking about a blowjob without using your hands. It sounds completely out of reach, but the good news is that you can actually make it happen. Just keep in mind that this move requires advanced skills, a steady pace, and jaw stamina. But I assure you that it is worth all that. You will be at a level very few women can even hope to attain.
    

​Are blowjobs important to guys? Much more so than most women think. Now that you have this playbook, you know the most important things in mastering the art of blowjobs and becoming a true champion. There are no crazy tricks, marathon sessions, or freaky stuff required; just decide if you want to become his empress.
 

If you make it your goal to learn and perfect these BJ skills, you’ll be unstoppable. Why would he ever look elsewhere or be distracted by that attractive next-door neighbor?  He won’t, because he’ll know that you have something that no one else will ever have—unmatched blowjob skills. It’s your secret weapon.
 

That’s how you can go from being just his blowjob queen, to being the blowjob empress that he’ll never forget. He’ll be obsessed with you, and for all the right reasons. Just take the reins and bask in the satisfaction of knowing that nobody will have the skills you do. Be his personal empress—because, why settle for queen when the other throne’s wide open?